Is the waiting over yet?

I know it seems like I lack blogging much but it seems that there is so much downtime and waiting, that there isn't much to blog about.  I'm sure everyone doesn't care too much what I have for dinner every night, what I get when I go to the supermarket or what time I wake up in the morning!  I do short posts on Facebook, so if you are not following us on FB, you may want to check it out. 

We had our court date on 12/12/12.  Can you believe that?  Surely we will never forget the date we had court!  And in God's perfect timing, the date our adoption is decreed will be Christmas Day!  Again, a date we will not soon forget!

Court was a little intimidating.  There were three seats up on the "throne" that appeared to be for a King and his two advisors!  The judge sat in the middle and a "juror" sat on each side of him.  Then, off to the left, sat a representative from the local SDA, a "prosecutor" and a representative from the courts.  Also present was the director from the orphanage.

Vil'nans'k Courtroom - the "cage" on the right is where criminals sit during trial

When it was time for the director of the orphanage to speak, she said that she was pleased for us to adopt Lilya and Alex.  The kids have behaved better after coming back from hosting in America and she was surprised at how fast we came back for the kids!  

We were asked questions about why we wanted to adopt the kids, do we have enough space in our home for them, do we make enough money to support two more children, do we have any other children at home, etc.  We really weren't taken off guard by any of the questions.

Court lasted about one hour and we did have one laugh during the court session.  The judge called Danny up first and asked him a bunch of questions.  Then, he told Danny to sit down and called me up.  The first question he asked me was, "Do you know that man?" as he pointed to Danny.  Being a little on the sarcastic side, I immediately responded with, "Nope, I sure don't."  Then realized maybe that wasn't a good idea and said that I was just joking.  But thankfully everyone laughed - including the judge!  Whew!!!

The judge and the two jurors left the courtroom to "decide our case" and came back about 15 minutes later to declare that they were approving our adoption.  Glad my sarcasm didn't deter them from approving!

The next step is critically important.  It is so important, it is almost hard for me to put into words what it is.  So, I'll do my best and hopefully everyone reading will clearly understand.  Are you ready?  The next step is to wait!  Just wait.  Wait for 10 long days!  Actually, our total wait is 13 days because Sunday's don't count, the day of court doesn't count and the decree doesn't happen until day 11.  So, we just wait.  Waiting is the hardest part.  Especially when I don't have my best friend by my side.  Danny and Coby left on 12/13/12 at 3:00pm and being here by myself is so hard!!  I am hoping to go home by January 4th and if that happens, then I will be apart from Danny and Coby for 21 days.  I truly don't know how military wives do it.  And wives whose husbands work out of town and only come home on weekends.  Danny is my very best friend.  He is a part of me.  We are one.  Being without him is like missing half of myself!!!

Me and my best friend just a few hours before he left to go home

Since I am now here alone, I have kept busy Skyping with Danny.  A lot.  And I have also had the privilege to spend time with Pastor John and his lovely wife, Ev.  They are long term missionaries from Canada who have started a church in Zaporozhye and have also started a Trade School for aging out Orphans.   We have shared a few meals together and we will be spending Christmas Day with them.  It is so nice to be around them.  They are just lovely people and really doing great work for the Lord here.  They have been here 5 years and plan to be here another 5 years.
 

This is Pastor John and myself

This is Pastor John's lovely wife, Ev and myself

 Please check out what they are doing and if you feel led to help orphans but can't adopt, consider donating to their ministry.  Their ministry is New Hope Center.  Alex White is also a missionary here with New Hope Center and I will be having dinner with him and his fiance this coming week.  I might even meet with up another adoptive family adopting out of Kherson.  Before Danny left, we were able to have a meal with another family adopting out of Vil'nans'k and hopefully they will be back before I leave, so that I can see them again!

I have also enjoyed the food here in Ukraine.  I absolutely love the food here!  Here are some pictures from a restaurant that was recommended to us called Sir Lancelot.  The food was phenomenal!!!  The only downfall - no English Menu!!  So, Pastor John translated it for me.  However, I won't be able to go by myself unless I order the exact same thing.  Which wouldn't be so bad because it was delicious but I'd love to try something else since this was so good!

Ukrainian salad with cucumbers, tomatoes and red peppers with dill and olive oil.  Probably the best I've had since I've been here.  It even had just a smidgen of romaine lettuce - very rare for Ukrainian salads to have any lettuce

The rolled up things on the left was chicken breast rolled up, filled with cheese and lightly breaded.  The two dollops on each side of the dill was a baked potato smothered in cheese.  This was superb!!!!!  Beautiful presentation, perfect portions and tasted delicious!!!! 

From the Broken Hearted

So, I have been waiting for the right time to blog because I am just not a writer and it does not come easily for me.  I am sitting here at the computer going through a wave of emotions and tears start streaming down my face.  Now is the time to blog?  Really?  But I felt the nudge and so here I sit, blogging.  Once I read this over tomorrow, I may realize that I shouldn't be blogging, especially when I am so emotional but I always promised that I would be transparent and would write exactly what is on my mind, without holding back.  So, maybe now is the time to blog!

We have had two precious children in our care for the past 5 weeks.  We weren't planning on hosting this summer.  As a matter of fact, I even told my friend Nicole (she volunteers for the hosting program) that we were not planning on hosting.  But God had other plans for us.  When Nicole and her husband, Joe, went to the Ukraine in February, they interviewed some children at one of the orphanages for the summer hosting program.  After they interviewed Lilya and Alex, they both said that they thought those children would be perfect for us.  So, even though they knew we didn't want to host, she still emailed me a photo and profile of these children.  She is stubborn, ya know!  And thank God she is!!  So, Danny and I prayed about it and we realized that He wanted us to host these kids.  I am so glad that we listened.  Had we not listened to Him, we would have missed out!  Oh the things we would have missed out on!!!

We would have missed out on hugs, kisses, "I love you's", attitudes, silliness, playing UNO and Jenga, watching "Pink Panther" 500 times, riding bikes, picky eaters, a noisy house, a big hole in our backyard, a cookie baking partner, 16 hours at the dentist and eye doctor, lots of appreciation and so much more that I can't even begin to write it all out.

Now, I sit here with less than 30 hours before these children get on a plane and head back to the Ukraine.  To a place where they are going to lay their head down on a bed with a crappy mattress in a room with many other children and will probably cry themselves to sleep for the first week or so.  They won't have anyone to tuck them in and tell them it's going to be OK.  They won't get much to eat and most definitely won't get the nutrition that they need so desperately for their growing bodies.  They won't get to ask for seconds and they won't get to have an apple every day.  They might get beat up, they might get teased and they won't have a mom or dad their to protect them.  They might get their toys taken away by the older kids.  They will have to wash their underwear in the sink and wear the same outfit for an entire week (or more).

Could you just picture your child in this situation?  Just for a minute....imagine your child crying themselves to sleep in an orphanage because they miss you so much.  Imagine your child only getting bread and butter for breakfast (maybe porridge on a good day), watered down potato soup for lunch and bread and butter for dinner.  Imagine your child not being able to change his clothes every day and having to wash his underwear in the sink.  Imagine having to put him on a plane to go all the way to the other side of the world to live in those conditions.  Just imagine.  I don't have to imagine because that will be a reality for me in less than 30 hours.  My son clung to me tonight sobbing and saying "Mama, no Ukraine" over and over again...."Mama, Alex No Ukraine, please".  And all I could do was to hold him and cry, too.

Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.  James 1:27

I can't get the paperwork for this adoption done fast enough because if it were up to me, we would be going back to Ukraine with them on Thursday.  I just pray that the next 4 or 5 months don't feel like 4 or 5 years and that we will be rejoicing before you know it!!  And I have to remember that while I consider these my children......they really aren't mine at all........they are God's children and I may just have the privilege of caring for them.

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Psalm 127:3

Will you please pray for us because these next two days are going to be very hard for us.  We are going to send our children back to a place that is a place I wouldn't send my worst enemy!  My heart is going to be ripped out of my chest.  I can't even explain what I am feeling right now....I am just sitting here typing through a stream of tears.  However, through all of this, I know I need to lean on my Lord and Savior Christ Jesus.

When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken.  Psalm 34: 17-20 

Will you also consider donating to help us reach our goal of bringing Alex and Lilya home by the end of the year?  It is a very aggressive goal that we have been told is nearly impossible but something tells me that nothing is impossible with God.

For nothing is impossible with God.  Luke 1:37

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Dynamics of a Family

Wow!  I've been in my little bubble of a family of three, with one child, for 10 years now.  Let me tell you that the dynamics of a family changes drastically when you triple your child count.  Hmmm, what if you wake up tomorrow with 6 kids? 9 kids? 12 kids?  What would that look like for your family?  OK, some of my friends already have 6, 9 or 12 kids but for some of us, that would be a really big deal!  For our family, much has changed.  We go through almost an entire jug of orange juice in one sitting.  We run the dishwasher daily.  We go through almost a dozen eggs at breakfast.  We buy more than one watermelon at a time (see the last picture).  Brushing teeth takes 3 times as long.  Showers seem never ending.  And other things changed that I just can't explain in writing.  Things such as trying to be fair (which is especially hard when we don't speak Russian), spreading our love equally, making sure everyone gets our attention, determining "who started it" etc.  Before, there were no worries about determining "who started it" because there was only one "who" that could have started it! 

We hosted last summer (twice) and this time around, it is different as night and day.  However, a lot within those two hostings prepared us for this hosting.  As much as we were heartbroken when Lidiya, Andriy and Vlad did not want to be adopted, I sort of feel like maybe, just maybe, God kinda knew what He was doing.  Gotta love when that happens!  When I am with these kids, I just feel...............complete.  They had me at "privet"!!  I honestly can't say I felt that way before.  I don't know what it is, I just know that it is different.

From the minute they got off the plane, I felt it.  They practically ran into our arms.  Alex held me so tight and did not want to let go.  They had tears in their eyes and it was such a special moment.  Even the chaperone had tears in her eyes!!  They fit into our family.  It feels natural.  Lilya has a cute personality and likes to tease and play around.  Today, we ran errands together and at the post office, she took my keys without me seeing and put them in her pocket.  When we got out to the truck, I searched frantically for them...in my purse, in my pocket, everywhere...I even start to head back into the post office to search.  She starts cracking up and pulls the keys out of her pocket and says, "Haha Mama"!!  Too funny!!!  Oh and yep, they call me "mama"!  And I love it!

Alex just melts my heart when he wakes up in the morning and says "dobroe utro" (good morning) and gives me a big hug...one where he wraps his arms all the way around me!!

I've gotten more hugs and kisses from them in the 4 days that they've been here than I got in the entire 5 weeks last summer.  They show an ability to bond.  They freely give hugs and kisses.  They are very thankful for everything they are given.  They have emotions and aren't afraid to show them.  The other day Alex was "joking" and told Coby he was fat.  When papa told him that wasn't nice, he said that he was only joking but papa told him that wasn't a funny joke.  When we got home, he went in his room and cried uncontrollably.  We called someone to help us ask him what was wrong. He said that he was sorry for saying that to Coby and that he really was a good boy. He felt really bad for what he said and this just gave us an opportunity to show grace and forgiveness!!


Colossians 3:12-13  Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. 
 
I know it has only been 4 days but holy toledo (am I "allowed" to say that as a Christian?  I always wondered!!), I am in hog heaven!!!  I have a fire under my tail to get moving on this adoption because I want to go back and get them.......like......yesterday!!!!!  Tonight I asked Lilya if she liked living in the orphanage and she said, "No, who likes living there?"  I want to get them out of that place!!!  It is dark.  It is dismal.  I've been told it is one of the worst orphanages in Ukraine.  Will you please help by praying that the Lord will move in mighty ways for us to get them?  We need Him to move in the process so that it moves fast!  We need Him to provide financially....the cost is approximately $32,250 and we have a total of $1,200 available to go towards their adoption.  $1,200.  One thousand, two hundred (just in case you thought maybe I was missing a zero or put the comma in the wrong place).  We have a long ways to go but we know that the Will of God does not take you where Grace of God does not cover you.   

2 Corinthians 9:8:  And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.

We truly believe that this is His will for our lives and we will go....we just need your help and most importantly, your prayers!

Here are some pictures of the kids since they have been here....

 At the airport....very special moment I will never forget!

Lilya and Papa!

Showing off their green tongues after eating snowballs

Lilya and Mama standing in front of a bunch of Lilies!!

Silly boys!!

She loves our dog!!!!

Hmmmm.....wonder who taught him this??

One watermelon would not be enough so we had to get two!

And the story continues....

We have been through a roller coaster of emotions over the past year and a half when we started this journey of hosting / adoption.  It has not been easy but every step of the way, we feel that the Lord has grown us and strengthened our faith.  Sometimes I don't like how He strengthens my faith.  However, every time I come out the other end, I feel blessed that He even wants to strengthen my faith.  Of course, I rarely see that as I am going through it.

This was no exception.

If you have been following our journey with Lidiya and her brothers, then you know that we had our adoption agent have the translator in their region ask them if they want to be adopted.  We have been waiting on that answer since November 20th.  On December 16th, we received word that Lidiya and Vlad had been asked....Vlad said "yes, he wants a family" and Lidiya said that she would have to think about it but would give her answer in a week. We finally received the answer we had been waiting so long for.  On February 5th, our adoption agent notified us that the translator asked Lidiya and she said that she did not want to leave the Ukraine.

I prepared my heart for this answer because I knew that Lidiya was having a hard time wanting to leave her family.  I had a feeling deep inside, even though I would not have admitted it, that her answer would be no.  On February 3, I had a dear friend tell me that  she would never adopt children that had any family connection because of the potential repercussions surrounding that.  She also just shared from her heart about feeling that maybe we should stop pursuing these children because when children want something, they will most certainly let you know.  If Lidiya had to "think about it", that is a red flag.  Well....I knew all of this before she even spoke a word but sometimes hearing it from someone else makes you open your eyes.  So, that just helped me to come to the conclusion that these were not the children the Lord would have for us.  However, I still was not about to give up, the Lord would have to close that door.

And He did.

So, for the last 3 weeks, we have been mourning and praying about what the Lord would have for us.  It has taken me 3 weeks to blog because we were just not ready to put into writing what we had just lost.  Danny has been greatly affected by this, his heart is broken and he has needed some time to heal.

Well, on February 20th, one of my friend's (who is in Ukraine interviewing kids for hosting) sent me an email and said that if we would consider hosting this summer, she found a great brother and sister for us.  She personally interviewed them and she said that we were the first to come to her mind....her husband agreed.  After praying about it, we have decided to move forward with hosting them.

Danny is very excited about these two children.  Although he is still mourning over Lidiya and her brothers, he is anxiously moving forward with anticipation of having these two in our home for 5 weeks this summer.  Although I did not have to mourn quite as much over the loss, I am still not totally excited yet about these kids.  I think my heart and my mind go through a different process and it will take some time before I completely warm up to the idea.  To be 100% honest, having another teenage girl in our home scares the heebie jeebies out of me!!  I was scared to have Lidiya come and it ended up turning out OK but for some reason, I am feeling the same way again about this girl.  I don't know why - I guess it goes back to that whole "I don't feel adequate" feeling.  I realize that my adequacy will come from the Lord and I will eventually relent but for right now, I am just being stubborn, I suppose.  However, I do not feel that our family is complete.  I know with all of my being that the Lord has more children for us.  I, never in a million years, would have thought that this would include older children and I most certainly never would have thought it would have included a teenage girl!!!!!!  However, I know my ways are not His ways....

"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD.  Isaiah 55:8

So, please follow us on this journey as we take steps of obedience in taking care of the orphans.  We are not capable of doing this alone.  Thank you for being there for us.

"A" and "L"

Adopting Ukraine Orphans: God's Plan

This is going to be a long post, I just have a feeling.  But, it is going to be so worth it because I am going to share with you something very special that has happened to us recently.  Not that we are anything special but what the Lord has done is!  If you will take a few minutes and read this, you will be completely amazed.  I only say that because 2 months later, I am still amazed.  I am in awe of what He has done for us....something we most definitely do not deserve.

For those that follow my blog, you know that we hosted a girl from the Ukraine this summer and are now on a journey to adopt her and her 2 brothers.  When presented with hosting all three this Christmas, our first reaction was "no way, we can't afford it".  However, we came to the conclusion that if it was the Lord's will for us to host all three, He would provide.

And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:19.  

And that He did....He provided the finances for us to host all three.  However, it apparently wasn't in His will because the Ukrainian Government in the Kherson Region shut down all hosting programs.  I say all that because when it came time to consider adoption, we realized that if it is His will for us to adopt all three, He would need to provide once again.  Not only will He need to provide the $40,000 it will take to adopt all three but He would have to provide a means for us to raise three extra children.  Our monthly budget will increase significantly with three more teenagers in the house.  We really make it week to week, so the thought of that was incomprehensible.  When Danny said, "If he wants us to adopt, he will make a way", I really just shrugged the thought off because he would have had to provide in a huge way.

Well, to back up just a bit....up until I went on my mission trip, we didn't even think the kids were eligible for adoption!  I found out while I was there.  I got home from my trip on September 15th and it was around that time that we really started talking about adoption.  So, keep that date in mind...it will be significant later in my story.

For those that don't know, my husband is a General Contractor and owned a company with one of his friends.  He has done a lot of additions and has used many subcontractors for things like electrical, plumbing and roofing.  He had gotten to know all of his contractors well over the years, especially his roofing contractor, Don Scro, because they have a friend in common...Jesus Christ.  Well....in early November, Don called Danny and told Danny that he was going to be retiring.  Danny was really bummed because he was going to be losing one of his favorite contractors.  Then Don told Danny, "But, I want you to take over my company".  Danny could not believe his ears.  Don said that the Lord told him that Danny was supposed to be the one to take over the company.  Wow!  The Lord is going to trust Danny and I to run this company?  This company that has been in Raleigh for 22 years???  He is entrusting US?  I definitely am in shock, in awe and completely amazed!!  So, in my recent posts where I mention that this is a "God given company", I truly mean it is a "God given company".  It is not a company passed down from our family.  It is not a company that we "bought".  It is not a company that we started from the ground up.  It truly is a company that the Lord is entrusting us with!

So, remember I told you to remember the date....September 15th?  Well, Don and Mary (his wife) told us that on September 15th, they were driving in Colorado, talking about what to do with the company when Don mentioned, "I should call Danny".  Yes...the same day I came home from the Ukraine, after seeing Lidiya and meeting her brothers.  At the same time that we were praying about the Lord providing so that we could adopt, they were praying about what to do with their company.  Coincidence?  I say that there is no such thing.

Want to hear something even better???  Danny has been speaking truth into his non-believing business partner for years...........yes.........y-e-a-r-s!!!  He has shared the gospel, shared what Jesus means to him and just lived his life in front of him for years.  And for years this man has not been interested in giving up his life for Christ.  He has had a lot of questions but has not felt that he needed the Lord at all.  Well, after this entire thing takes place, Danny realizes that he has to tell his business partner.  So, he calls him up and shares the story.  His business partner was so in awe that God would allow us to take over this company, so shocked and surprised, that he finally laid down his life for Christ!!!  It took him a few days to process everything but he couldn't believe it!

That is the most amazing part of the this entire story.  I am so amazed at how the Lord was orchestrating this entire thing....he weaved all of these pieces together to fit into His perfect plan.  His plan.  Not ours.  His will. His children.  His followers.  We will continue to walk and allow the Lord to direct our steps.

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Why does God make us wait?

Waiting sucks.  I know, I know....it builds character.  It allows us time to trust the Lord.  It helps us to grow spiritually.  Waiting on the Lord helps build our faith.  Waiting on the Lord helps grow our patience.

Psalm 27:14 (NIV) Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.

But it still sucks.  And yes, I started a sentence with the word "but".  Oh, I also started a sentence with the word "and".  I'm just being real here.  I want the Lord to build my character, grow me spiritually, build my faith and grow my patience.  I want to trust the Lord.  However, I would be lying if I said that I had it all together.  That I am completely trusting in the Lord.  That my faith is just oh so strong.  That I am being a good little girl, being so patient, waiting on the Lord.  I'd be a big fat l-i-a-r!  

However, my faith and my trust in the Lord is growing.  It is.  I am humbled every time I hear him speak to me and tell me to wait.  To just trust Him.  I am completely in awe when I feel that He is speaking directly to me.  So, I guess I'd also be a big fat liar, if I said my faith wasn't growing, that I wasn't trusting in the Lord and that I wasn't being patient.  However, it is not easy!!!  Some days I just feel like crying and crying and crying. When I think about those three children and what they were doing on December 25th, my heart breaks.  I can promise you that they were not opening gifts, singing praises to the Lord, eating a huge Turkey Dinner with all the fixins and reading the Christmas Story in the Bible.  And that makes my heart ache.  There are hundreds upon thousands of children in this world without a family to call their own.  Without a mom to give them a big hug and say, "I love you".  Without a dad to take them out for ice cream "just because".  We can't help all of them.  But we do have the heart to help.  So, we are waiting on the Lord.  Waiting to hear if all three even want to be adopted.  We know that Vlad (the 15 year old) does want a family and is ready!!!  Lidiya said she would have to think about it (not such a big surprise).  Now we are waiting to find out if Andre wants a family and if Lidiya has made her decision.  


So, thank you for your prayers and please take a moment to continue to pray for these three.  Also, please pray for us as we continue to wait.  I do not want to lose heart, lose faith and stop trusting in the Lord.  We believe that the Lord loves those children more than we ever could.  Our prayer right now is, "I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!"  Mark 9:24

It will take an absolute Miracle

I am not saying this to be cliché or anything but it will take an absolute miracle for us to bring these children home. But then again, if it happens, we truly can and will give all the Glory to God. However, if it doesn't, then we will understand that it was not His will.

The reason it will take a miracle is that we really have everything going against us...we really one have one thing in our favor right now. One. More about that in a minute. Here are the things we have going against us and the things that our prayer warriors can pray about:

• All three kids have to say "yes" to being adopted.  This is a huge obstacle because this summer when we asked Lidiya about coming to America to go to school, her response was, "No way.  I couldn't leave my brothers and I have way too much family to leave".  Hopefully "adoption with her brothers and the chance at a permanent family" is different than leaving everyone to just come to school.  
• Then, Ukraine in itself is a challenging country to adopt from.  It is corrupt, there is bribery, the politics are just awful and so much more.  
• To top that off, the Kherson Region in Ukraine is very against adoptions right now because there have been too many American adoptions coming out of hosting programs.  So, they are investigating child trafficking.  This one just makes me sick because it is child trafficking that we are saving these children from!
• And to put icing on the cake, the orphanage director at their orphanage is in hot water because he has allowed international adoptions but not adoptions from Ukrainian families.  See....he gets more money for international adoptions, so now he is being investigated.

So, please pray that we will be able to discern the Lord's will for us and for these children.  Ultimately, they are His children, not ours and we just want what is best for them.  

Back to the one thing that we do have going for us....2 out of the 3 children were asked about adoption and Vlad (the oldest) said yes, he is ready to go!!  But they all have to say yes and Lidiya said she would have to think about it.  Andre has not been asked yet.

We are in the waiting mode right now....we are waiting on the Lord.  Waiting is the hardest part but He knows that and I believe through all of this He is trying to build my faith.  Hopefully it's working!  :)

Be still, and know that I am God.  Psalm 46:10

Here is a picture of Vlad and Andre playing Uno.  

You can sort of see their personalities in this picture.  

Vlad is very reserved and keeps to himself, while Andre is very giggly and goofy.  

Today I felt empty

Is "empty" even a feeling?  I know sad, angry, excited, nervous, happy, frustrated, etc. are all "feelings" but today I just felt empty.  And if that is not a "feeling", then I just made it up to be one.  So, go ahead and put it in the dictionary:

emp·ty  adjective, -ti·er, -ti·est, 

1. A feeling; expressive of or characterized by emptiness.

I am so excited for the children that did get to come for hosting and I am so excited for the families that get to enjoy those children.  I am not jealous, at least I don't think I am.  I am not angry because I have relented to the fact that God is in control.  I am not frustrated....OK, well, maybe I am a little frustrated.  Frustrated at the Ukrainian government and culture because of all their stupid (yes, I said the word stupid) bribes, corruptness, laws, etc.  However, I am just mostly feeling empty.  

Last night, the children arrived from the Ukraine.  Not Lidiya, Vlad and Andre but other children, children that don't live in Kherson.  So, I kept thinking to myself all day, "They were supposed to have gone with us to this."  "They should be sitting at the table eating dinner with us right now".  "They should be sleeping in a nice, warm bed right now and not in a cold orphanage".  

But ya know what - I haven't cried once today.  I went the entire day thinking to myself how they should be here.  I went the entire day feeling empty without them.  But it isn't until right now, as I sit here and type out my feelings that I am finally crying.  Crying over the fact that they are not here.  Crying over the fact that I miss them.  Crying because it hurts.  

I am rejoicing for the other children because I know what a precious gift they have to be here!  I am so darn excited to see one of the boys that I absolutely feel in love with when I was on my mission trip because my dear friend is hosting him.  I can't wait to see the look on his face when he sees me!!!  I am also excited to see two children that my other friends are hosting.  So, I don't know how I can be excited and empty all at the same time..........but I am.

Matthew 11: 28-30  Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Here is a picture of Sergiy, 

the boy my friend is hosting that I can't wait to see!

Sometimes the answer to prayer is "no"

So, here I sit at my computer with my heart in my lap.  I don't have any other way to describe how I am feeling. I have cried many tears over the past two days and I have had to sort through my feelings and emotions.  I have cried, prayed and cried out to the Lord!  Why are my precious children from Ukraine not coming home for Christmas?

We received a call on Monday that it wasn't looking good for the kids to come.  No explanation as to why but just that it doesn't look good, so we needed to pray.  I had many thoughts running through my head and I prayed...we all prayed.  I emailed those that I knew would pray, those that I consider my family and we all prayed.  Well, God answered our prayers.  I believe this was his answer: "The kids will not be coming for Christmas.  But I want you to trust me".  Sometimes people believe that if the answer is "no", then God must not have answered our prayers.  One day I was teaching Coby about answered prayers and I told him that God answers all prayers.  He told me that he did not believe God answered all prayers.  I asked him why not.  He said, "Well, what if I prayed right now that I want God to give me a million dollars?  He wouldn't answer that prayer".  I told him that I disagreed and he asked me how I could possibly disagree with that.  I told him that God's answer to that prayer would more than likely be "no" but nonetheless, he answered it.  "Ohhhh...now I get it", Coby said!!  So, I truly believe that God hears and answers all prayers.  His answer might be yes, it might be no, it might be maybe, it might be not now, it might be wait....who knows what his answer might be but I do believe he always has an answer.

The answer that we received was that the region in which the kids live (Kherson) is shutting down all hostings indefinitely.  The local regional authority in Kherson is upset about the number of adoptions that have resulted from hosting programs in the past year. New Horizon's For Children (NHFC) is not the only program that brings kids from this region. There were 7 in the last 12 months and 4 of them were NHFC related. They are viewing the host program as a “child trafficking program” and making accusations now and investigating each of the orphanages, directors and others involved in the region in adoptions. It comes down to someone, somewhere, doesn’t want the kids to be adopted, therefore, they have now closed this region to hosting.

I'm not really sure I understand this completely but what I do know is that God is ultimately in control and he loves those children more than I ever could.  He has opened way too many doors for us in this area of hosting/adoption that we can not come to the conclusion that this means we are finished.  Four weeks ago, we had $850 towards our hosting and today we have a total of approximately $11,800.  Danny and I both firmly believe that the Lord is asking us to completely trust in him and to go get our children.  We now have almost a third of the money that is needed to fund the adoption of these children.

We have had many people ask a lot of questions since we started talking about hosting/adopting children from Ukraine.  Questions like:  We have a lot of orphans in America...why not just adopt here?  Why not adopt from a country where it is easier?  Why would you spend $10,000 to host, why not just apply that money towards adoption?  Well...there really is one simple answer for all of the questions....we are doing what we believe the Lord has asked us to do.  An orphan is an orphan no matter where they live and if the Lord is asking us to go to the Ukraine, then that is where we will go.  He never said it would be easy.  Since he has shut down the hosting for this Christmas, we will now apply that money towards adoption.  :)

We will go to the Ukraine with the intent to bring these children home.  There is no guarantee that we will get to bring these children home...so many things can happen.  But I am going there with the thought that I am pregnant.  And just like in any pregnancy, even though you hear the baby's heartbeat and even though you see the baby on an ultrasound, there is still no guarantee that you will have that baby.  My pregnancy will begin when we start our homestudy.  So, I will share the news when we conceive!  And I will update everyone on the process of my pregnancy...up until the day of delivery.

Thank you all for your prayers and for following our journey.  I mean this with all of my heart - I am truly humbled at the outpouring of love and support that we have received...truly humbled.

Pictures of the children that you are reminded to pray for

Parent's Night Out Fundraiser

We have one more fundraiser before welcoming three orphans into our home for Christmas!  It is a Parent's Night Out on Saturday, Dec 3rd from 6:30-10 for kids ages 3+.  The Grace Christian School Cheerleaders will be watching the kids and doing crafts/games with them.  The donation amount will be $20 per child and $10 per sibling and that includes games, crafts and we will feed your children, also!!  It will be held at Kenney's Gymnastics at 6201 Daimler Way Raleigh, NC 27607 - just a few minutes from Crossroads.

We need everyone to pre-register for a couple of reasons:

1. So that we know how much pizza to order.
2. There is an occupancy limit of 90.
3. So that we know how many Cheerleaders to have join us.
4. In order to make sure we have enough crafts.

Will you please consider helping us in our last fundraiser??  We still have expenses that we need to cover for the children including connecting flight fees, Christmas, food (I'm sure my grocery bill will double next month!) and hopefully we can have our home study complete!  That is the first step in the adoption process.

Thank you so much for your support!!!  We are immensely blessed and honored at all of the support we have received thus far!

We just don't deserve it!!

I am being completely honest when I say that I do not feel worthy of what we are receiving right now.  The Lord is blessing us immensely regarding the hosting and potential adoption of three Ukrainian Teenage Orphans.  The only possible explanation is that He is doing His will and we just happen to be the vessel in which He is doing so. 

I am reminded each Sunday, as Pastor Davey is teaching through the book of Esther, that God accomplished His will through Haman, Mordecai, King Xerxes and Esther.  None of them were really worthy of being used as a vessel to accomplish His will (especially Haman) but He still chose to use them.  Now, I'd like to think God isn't using me like He used Haman but I definitely don't feel worthy enough to be used like He used Esther.

I am so unbelievably humbled right now - I am just in a state of awe and I am thinking that I will wake up any minute now.  I feel blessed and honored to even be used to bring in three orphans.  I have no clue whatsoever what I am going to do with 4 pre-teens and teens hanging out at my house.  Someone just asked me tonight, "Do you feel capable....?"  I just chuckled and say "nope" and she said, "No, I'm serious" and I just responded by saying, "So am I"!!  LOL  That's how I feel.....completely incapable.  BUT...isn't that just when He wants to use us???  When WE are incapable HE gets all the Glory!!

So there are two huge things I wanted to share with everyone.  The first one is just "one of" the biggest praises regarding bringing the children here for Christmas.  We had our Silent Auction Saturday Night and I was once again completely humbled by everyone that showed up.  I know I practically begged people to come but I still didn't expect the turnout that we had!!  I believe we had over 130 people come.....so thank you so much to everyone that supported us by donating a basket, donating money, bringing food, bidding on baskets, helping to set up and tear down, donating time, etc, etc.  The Lord was so good to us and blessed us with $4841!!!!!  Wow!!!!  I can't even put into words...............well, that's just it, I can't even put into words what I want to say!!!  Thank you!!!  We now have all of the money that we need to host all three children for Christmas.  We still have some added expenses of having the children here....connecting flight fees, Christmas, food (after how Lidiya ate this summer, I expect my grocery bill to double with 3 more mouths to feed), clothing, etc.  However, we still have one more fundraiser and I am hoping that we will have enough to also start our home study, if the Lord opens the door to adoption.

The second thing I wanted to share was this amazing article that was written up in the Fuquay Independent (on the Front Page!!) and the Apex Herald and is scheduled to be in the Holly Springs Sun.  If you are anything like me and you cry when the wind blows the wrong way, I should warn you to go ahead and break out your Kleenex Box.  I know the story, actually, I was the one who told the reporter the story and I still cried when I read it!!!  Again, as much as I wanted the article to show up on the front page, I really just did not expect it to and the fact that it did just completely humbles me.  I am not saying that lightly.....over the past 4 weeks, I have been so overwhelmed by all of the great things that are happening that I truly mean it when I say it humbles me!!!

Here is a picture of what the article looks like on the cover of the Fuquay paper

What a precious story...well written by Jessica Highsmith!

http://theapexherald.com/bookmark/16440314/article-Auction+will+help+fund+adoption+proccess#.TsbvfDyLCK8.facebook

This was the story that was run in the Apex Herald about our story regarding these three orphans that we are trying to bring here for Christmas.  I believe it will run in the Fuquay Independant and the Holly Springs Sun next week.  I hope you will be touched by the story...it was beautifully written.  Thanks to Jessica Highsmith! 

Saying "goodbye" this summer was very hard!!!

VERY HARD!!!

Coby wasn't sure what to feel but he misses Lidiya and can't wait to see her again!

A few baskets....they are coming along and we have awesome stuff to offer!!!

Here are some baskets that are completed.  You can bid, even if you are not going to be able to attend the auction.  Just let me know what you want your min. and max. bid to be and I will proxy bid for you.  I will list more as we get them completed.  All values are approximate!!!

We have a total of about 35 baskets to be offered!!!!!

So please make sure you come out and fellowship!!!

STARBUCKS BASKET

Value:  $85

Four 1 lb packs of coffee

1 NC Coffee Mug

1 create your own tumbler

1 starbucks tumbler

GOLF BASKET

Value:  $340

12 Golf Balls

2 bags of Golf Tees

1 Golf Towel

4 Rounds of Golf at the Raleigh Golf Association

4 rounds of Golf at Knights Play

$50 Gift Card to Edwards Mill Bar & Grill

DENTAL BASKET

Value: $1200+

1 gift cert. for a whitening/bleaching

1 gift cert. for an exam, cleaning and x-rays

1 gift cert. for $250 towards needed dental work

1 FlexCare+ Sonicare Toothbrush

1 Sonicare Airfloss

1 At-home tooth whitening system

Misc. manual toothbrushes & toothpaste
All from Riccobene & Associates

COLONIAL SPORTS MINISTRY

Value: $50

1 gift cert. for a Spring 2012 Soccer or Baseball Registration

TWONGO / RESTAURANT.COM PACKAGE

Value: $350

$100 Twongo Credit
(worth $200 because Twongo deals are offered at half their value)
$50 gift cert. to Spinners Restaurant @ The Four Point Sheraton
$25 gift cert. to Amante Gourmet Pizza
$25 gift cert. to Thai Spices and Sushi
$25 gift cert. to Mambo Italiano
$25 gift cert. to Klara's Restaurant in downtown Cary
(Authentic Czech Cuisine)
We have personally eaten at all of these restaurants (except Spinners but heard great things about it) and we have thoroughly enjoyed all of them.  That is why I picked them for this package!!!

CREATIVE MEMORIES SCRAPBOOKING BASKET

All I have to say is...y'all are lucky I won't be bidding....cuz I'd fight ya for this one!!!

Value: $350++

Creative Memories - Memory Mate Bag

1 pack of multi-colored photo mounting paper
1 pack of die cut shapes
Hundreds of stickers
Photo mounting triangles
I pack short cuts pre-cut mounting paper
1 set bold-tip pens
1 set fine-tip pens
Photo labeling pencil
Corner rounder
3 pairs decorative scissors
Personal mini-trimmer
Custom cutting system
3 blade set and mat
12 inch pattern
Circle patterns
Oval Patterns
Photo scissors
Fast formulas layout book
Plastic storage sleeves for stickers and paper
Gift Certificate for a creative memories consultant class on making a calendar
Picfolio mini album

CAR CARE BASKET

Value: $200

TWO - $50 gift certificates from Discount Tires towards a new set of tires

(Can not be used together)

$25 Gift Certificate from Colony Tire

1 roll paper towels

1 Black Magic Tire Shine

1 Wheel and Tire Cleaner

1 can of window / glass cleaner

1 Turtle Wax Car Wash

1 auto sponge

1 wash bucket

TWO gift certificates for a full service car wash at Bunkey's

SOUTHERN LIVING / WILLOW HOUSE BASKET

Value: $125+

1 beautiful distressed decorative cross
Estate Trivet Trio
1 Busy Mom's Cookbook
1 Simple Suppers Cookbook
1 glass flower vase

LIA SOPHIA JEWELRY PACKAGE

I received additional Lia Sophia Jewelry, so I have taken a few of these pieces and combined it with the other pieces I received and now I have two Lia Sophia Jewelry Packages.  Both packages have 5 pieces of jewelry in them.

Value: $426

5 Necklaces
1 ring
1 bracelet
1 pendant

DESSERT BASKET

Value: $55

$10 Restaurant.com Gift Certificate to Coffee & Crepes

$10 Gift Certificate to Happy Hollys Ice Cream / Snow Balls

4 Free Jr Frosty's at Wendy's

4 Free Small Frozen Yogurt at Skinny Dip

2 Free Quarts of Italian Ice at Rita's

A batch of Homemade Cookies

(not pictured because then they wouldn't be fresh - would they?!?)

GOURMET CHOCOLATE BASKET

Value: $50

Godiva Milk Chocolate Tablet Bar
Ghirardelli Milk Chocolate Caramel Premium Bar
Lindt White Chocolate Truffle
Harry & David Dark Chocolate Moose Munch Bar
Almond Roca Buttercrunch Candy
Chambury European Chocolate Truffles
Dolcetto Chocolate Filled Wafer Cookies
Primo Dolce Chocolate Truffle Cookies
Angelina's Sweet Butter Cookies
Beth's Chocolate Chip Cookies
Tapestry Chocolate Covered Graham Cracker
Fontazzi Butter Toffee Pretzels

This would be a perfect Christmas Gift to ship to a relative!!
I even have the box it came in and I'll give it to you, if you want.
YUMMY!!

TEEN GIRL BASKET

Value: $285

OK - this is the cutest "basket" e-v-e-r!!! 

Included is a fuzzy papasan chair from Justice for Girls

Inside is a ton of "girly" stuff including:

Mary Kay Make Up and Lotions

A Book:  "One Thousand Gifts"

A Worship Music CD:  Sara Groves

Candles

Girly Soaps

An Angry Bird

Coasters

Note paper

And so much more!

BLESSING BASKET BY JENNIFER FLEES
AND BASIL THE CAT

The basket doesn't look too nice in this picture but the stuff inside is awesome!

Value: $105

Gorgous Vintage Silver Plated 4 Picture Locket
Hand-made Ornament
A dozen blank cards with beautiful photos taken by Jennifer Flees
Beautiful Wall Art by Jennifer Flees

KIM SHARPHOTOGRAPHY PACKAGE

Value: $150

1 hour photo shoot with no sitting fee

All photos taken included on a CD at no charge

for you to take anywhere you wish to have any of the photos printed

(just the CD makes this package priceless!!!!)

This is a photo taken by Kim of our family with Lidiya

HEALTHSOURCE CHIROPRACTIC/MASSAGE PACKAGE

I have two of these packages to offer.  Plus, I have included one in the spa basket.

Value: $170 each

1 Consultation, Exam and X-Rays

1 - 30 minute massage

This package is probably the most special to me because I personally know Dr. Bob (the chiropractor) and he is a wonderful Godly man!!!  Not only does he have a huge heart but he is a great doctor.  When our family was seeing him, we had to stop due to finances.  Yet Dr. Bob wanted to continue to see us, despite our inability to pay at the time, because our health was more important to him than the money.  I can not say enough good things about Dr. Bob!!!  If you have ever been nervous about seeing chiropractors, please bid on this package and give Dr. Bob a chance.  I promise...you will not regret it!!!

WORSHIP PACKAGE

Value: $55

1 American Patriot Bible

1 Chris Tomlin Christmas Worship CD

HOUSEWARMING PACKAGE

Value: $65
Really - you can't place a value on this package because the three wall plaques
are hand-made and I can't even imagine what they are worth!!

1 Romans 8:28 Wall Plaque

1 Blessings Wall Plaque

1 Family Rules Wall Plaque

1 Decorative Cross

Set of 3 Hearts:  Family, Hope and Faith

I have listed just over half of the baskets, items and packages that we will have at the auction.  I will not be posting anymore baskets with complete descriptions and pictures but I will try and list as many of the baskets, items and packages that we will have at the auction so that you at least have an idea.

Another Creative Memories Scrapbooking Basket worth $350

A fast food basket with coupons for IHOP, McDonalds, Southern Roast Coffee and Chick-fil-a

Another photo package

Another golf package from Twelve Oaks in Holly Springs

A Monkey Joe's Birthday Party Package for 16 kids worth $199

State Fan Basket

Sherwin Williams Paint Package

We have a total of about 35 baskets to be offered!!!!! 

So please make sure you come out and fellowship!!!